Free Sex

I feel so thankful with my condition now. As a muslim woman I still do all things in right ways, Insha Allah. Recent time I meet all people from over the world. I have chatted with them who from many kind of country with their each cultures, by this my English which is still too bad. I don’t know exactly, aren’t people who are roving in the cyber world most of them lier or criminal.

But I love to meet them all. I can know what other kind of life, and to open my mind about all things and to see how’s life of other overseas society. I meet several friends from Pakistan, Japan, and Australia. I just to be friendly to making friend with all whatever sort of them. It make me to know more about all.

I see many people in Pakistan are wonderful person. I meet several young people in teenage old have a deep knowledge in Islam. Do all their obligation in Islamic ways seriously. I appreciate them. And they all so smart too, they have a good enough English. It mind me children in Indonesia that have same age, senior/junior high school student too rarely who could speaking in a good English.

Besides it, I meet people from other non-muslim country too. I see how bad of life there, especially in their free sex habit. They think so strange if girls or boys above 20 years old still virgin. They tell me honestly about their sex experiences. When they ask me back about Indonesian, they think that it’s unbelievable that a lots of girls/boys still virgin eventhough they have a boy/girlfriend. So how bad a value of virginity there ?

I write this article just want to describe how’s life commonly in Indonesian custom, that is different with them.

It all because we have different mind with them in love sense. They so easy in love matter. They can tell about their feeling directly and can be quickly without ashamed eventhough it is to people who they just have met her/hir in recents time. So it is too easy to convey what they feel about love in short time with the intention for making girl/boyfriend relationship between them. And for them when they agree about that relationship, It means ussualy that they can doing sex with their girl/boyfriend whenever they want. Might be that’s the reason why people there easy too to get divorce. Easy to say love, easy to making love, easy to bored, and easy to change the spouse.

It is too different with Indonesian custom as long as I know. We are in Indonesia love sense is something that too cautiousful to talking out. We, girls or boys sometime have ashamed feeling to convey or to tell out about their feeling to girls/boys they love, just in short time. Especially for the girls, too seldom the girls starting first to say love to boy they love. It will be seems like embarrassing sense. Might be that’s why there are too many jomblo in Indonesia, especially jomblo woman. Hehehe…… And here in Indonesia, love relationship between girl/boyfriend doesn’t mean that they can do free sex if they want. Of course it is not appropriate and scandalous action, especially in muslim roles. We have big muslim community here. It is forbidden in this religion. Love relationship between girl/boyfriend only in limited relation, they can be loving and take care to each other, and help each other in a real relationship, commonly like best and closest friend, because there love in their each heart. And they agree to have commitment that one day later they will marry to each other if the time is right, and Insha Allah if God permit it. But I don’t know so far might be there are another thing in under ground of others society here..

And I don’t know how muslim people who live out in unislamic country can be changing step by step and doing prohibition things follow it’s custom.. Naudzubillah minzalik…... But it’s imaginable…. I am thankful I just ordinary girl who come from ordinary society. Because people who usually do it commonly are come from high class community who lack of faith in God and religion.

Once again I am so thankful to Allah.. I live in Indonesia, and I am still in the right way…. Insha Allah..

So how could it be easy to find holy and clean person in the cyber world to be our soulmate..?


Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest . That is purer for them . Allah is Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest , and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent , and to draw their veils over their bosoms , and not to reveal their adornment save except to their own husbands or fathers or husband’s fathers , or their sons or their husbands ' sons , or their brothers or their brothers' sons or sister’s sons , or their women , or their slaves , or male attendants who lack vigor , or children who know naught of women's nakedness . And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment . And turn unto Allah together , O.. believers , in order that you may succeed.
(An Nur : 30-31)

And come not near unto adultery . it is an abomination and an evil way.
(Al Israa : 32)


*Jomblo is girl/boy who has no a gal, especially in a long time.

Blessing On Last Ramadhan Month

I fell so proud being a muslim. And Alhamdulillah I live in Indonesia, that has a big muslim community. So a lot of Islamic activities hold here in all place as long as Ramadhan month. Ramadhan month in this year, actually I have worked in Indosat (telecommunication operator) for 10 months. So I did all Islamic activies which presented by Indosat. Because I seldom get these excellence ones in my old company I worked for before.

And as long as last Ramadhan I get a lots of blessing. All Islamic activies that related to the Ramadhan theme are presented in my company like lecture programmes, talk show, Islamic art show, Nasyid show, music instrument “Angklung” show, bazar programme, fasting break together programme, and any else. I my self so enjoy all activities that holding at break hour on 11:45 – 13:30.

Besides fasting break programme that holding in Indosat, we got others fasting break invitation from vendors and many clients. Almost everyday we went to that invitation which almost of them was holding at high class restaurants or hotels like Olive Tree niko hotel restaurant, hyatt hotel, Cilantro restaurant, sate senayan restaurant, and so on. Too many invitation, sometime I missed several one because I was became too seldom eat at home with my family. Besides that reason, I felt bored too with restaurant food that sometime was not enjoying with my appetite. It felt strange in my tongue, lke Japanese food, or Chinese food. And sometime they gave door prize too to us. Lucky me, I got TV Color 21” in last NSN (Nokia Siemens Network) invitation.

From all moment that make me feel touched is all enjoying invitation were holding by other company which most of them are non-muslim people. Most of vendor company or clients’s staff are Chinese, Indian, and other any foreign people. They used Ramadhan moment to entertaint us by break fasting together. And they followed happy too together with us. It means that Ramadhan not just give blessing and happiness to muslim people only, but others non-muslim people feel too.

And the other one that make me proud is when I was visiting it in hotel or any places other I heard Islamic music/song always used as back sound in many rooms, unexceptly in toilet room. Although we can see there other several visitor were foreign people too. But it felt Islamic athmosphere there.

So that’s one of the reason why I feel proud being a muslim in Indonesia. I suppose that might be we couldn’t find the same one in other country, especially in non-muslim country. Even that, ied day is more amazing celebrate in Indonesia than in other Arabian country. We have “mudik” event and “ketupat” event.

Saturday 3rd 2007, 19:15

Dear my blog,

I have so a long time didn’t visiting and writing this blog since last ied celebration. I don’t know why it felt so lazy to write anything. No ideas that I can wrote. But now I want to share again what in my mind, and all things I feel and I find.

Now I want to try writing my blog in English, whatever how bad my English. I just want to share what I write to all my friends all over the world. I hope they who read it understand what I meant.